Cappi started in the counseling profession as an addiction counselor in Littleton, working with both the substance abuser and their partners. Treatment programs (either inpatient or outpatient) are usually the best route to start when the alcoholic/substance abuser has made the positive decision to quit. But people who live in chemically dependent families can successfully address their issues here. Cappi helps families and partners realize this disease is like the “white elephant,” that everyone sees but ignores and avoids. Her expertise as an addiction counselor and in codependency, helps you focus on altering behaviors in yourself that are destructive, and that only you have the power to change.
Families struggling with addiction issues may answer “yes” to some of the following:
- I feel like I shouldn’t do anything to make others angry at me.
- I tend to overextend myself in taking care of others.
- I feel like should keep others happy.
- It’s important to put my own values and needs aside in order to preserve my relationship with my partner.
- Giving is the most important way I have to feel good.
- Fear of someone else’s anger has a lot of influence on what I say or do.
- I find myself worrying and preoccupied when my partner is going to drink/drug next.
- It’s my job to keep things stable so my children don’t notice substance abuse.
- I feel resentful and hurt because it seems there’s too much responsibility on me.
When chemically dependent people create problems for themselves, if we rescue and overcompensate for the addict, it’s hurting the addict more by doing for them what they can do for themselves. Then the alcoholic’s self-confidence plummets further downward, because they start doubting themselves and their capabilities. The vast majority s of chemically dependent people have good values; that’s why their self-esteem disappears when even in the early stages of the disease. They sabotage by doing things (like lying to themselves and others, not keeping promises, not fulfilling obligations, etc. . ) that are in a direct violation of the values they learned in childhood. Alcoholics don’t want to hurt their families, and yet alcohol and drugs become the way to numb the pain, the guilt, and to escape seriously looking inward at themselves. They use to escape for a moment anyway, and the family usually doesn’t hold them accountable. The cycle goes on and on.
Are you exhibiting these behaviors?
- I find myself worrying when my partner is going
to drink (or abuse substances, gamble,compulsively
shop etc.) next
- It's partially my responsibility to keep my partner
away from his/her addiction
- I try to keep things stable so that my children
do not notice substance abuse or addiction-counselor behaviors
- I feel resentful and angry because it seems there's
too much responsibility on me
Addiction Counselor in Littleton can help people understand and overcome their addiction problems with right the approach. Cappi helps family members of addicts or
alcoholics learn specific stages, symptoms and the progression
of the addiction. In this process attention is paid
to teaching you how to take better care of yourself
physically, emotionally and spiritually. We also learn
healthy boundaries and how to establish loving and firm
ones. It's important to be aware of one's own behaviors
that are contributing to the problems in the family
and that enable the alcoholic/addict. In the process
you will develop a future plan and vision for yourself
that includes new healthy habits that make you feel good
about yourself and/or children. Finally, you develop
a meaningful understanding that only you can change
yourself and specific ways in which to accomplish this.
*from Edmund J Bourne,phd
"The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook"